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Monday, June 12, 2017

#Microblog Monday: Honeymoon



I was mortified when I realized that last week was our 11th date-o-versary, eleven years since we kissed on a bench on our first date, and we acknowledged it NOT AT ALL. I totally forgot until Sunday, when I was getting a massage and talking about how Bryce and I met.

I guess we've had some heavy things on our minds, so we can be forgiven just this once.

One of the less heavy things is the planning of our amazing trip to the California Coast, which I am calling our honeymoon. Literally, when reserving our room in the hotel we're spending the most time in and it asked for a reason for our stay, I saw "Honeymoon" and was like, YES. That's right -- this is our GODDAMN HONEYMOON. We started infertility stuff before our wedding. The weekend I visited my best friend and wrote the letter where I proposed to Bryce, I was reading The Conception Chronicles, because I wanted to know what I was going to face as we knew we'd have trouble conceiving (trouble, ha ha HA ha ha). The day of our ceremony in the backyard, I signed for Ovidrel in my wedding dress. It's been CONSTANT.

So yeah, this is our honeymoon, the start of our new life just us two, a celebration of our love and ability to endure through pain and loss and heartbreak galore with our relationship strong and adoring.

We decided to do the California Coast -- flying into San Francisco, going to Napa for a few days, then going to Carmel-by-the-Sea for some Monterey Aquarium and Big Sur action, then down to Pasadena so we can visit with my dad, then back up to Santa Barbara for romantic beachy nature time, and then back to San Francisco, two weeks from when we flew in, to head home.

It's a crazy road trip with real romantic inns and views and activities planned.

Happy Honeymoon to us --  it doesn't make up for what we've lost, but it's quite the consolation prize and we are fortunate to be able to do it, using some of the money that was earmarked for adoption. Bittersweet poetic justice in that, but this is what we've got. And I am SO looking forward to it (even though a chunk of Highway 1 recently fell into the ocean...which isn't concerning at all...). After years of stagnance, a bit of extravagance is lovely to plan.

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17 comments:

  1. Jess, this trip is very similar to the trip Grey and I took for our honeymoon 13 yrs ago (minus the Pacific NW segment). I will be wishing you the same joy and fun we had. With so many moments of snuggling.

    And book honeymoon suites as often as you can. You two are long overdue.

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    1. Oh, wonderful! I am so looking forward to it. We booked fancy rooms with chilled champagne and fireplaces and whatnot for the first week, and then scaled back a smidge the second. Mostly because...we're flying first class, which is ridiculously extravagant but I am SO looking forward to calming my fear-of-flying nerves with a glass of champagne! It's going to be awesome. Thanks for the well wishes! I'm sure there will be tons of snuggling... :)

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  2. San Francisco is amazing. Napa is amazing. Monterey Aquarium is amazing. You guys are going to have so much fun! And you totally deserve this. Hold nothing back and have that second (or fourth) glass of wine.

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  3. Okay you are coming to MY HOOD and we HAVE TO meet up! I am like IN San Francisco! (Well I work in SF) When are you coming??? I have to write you an email, like now! Let me find your email. :)

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  4. That sounds like such an awesome trip. I hope you both enjoy every minute. Make sure to take lots of pictures and make sure you are that super lovey dovey PDA couple on their honeymoon that everyone envies ;)

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  5. Ooooh, I love the anticipation of vacation planning! So happy for you. I think it will be a lovely and poignant trip, and give you space and time to have your insights and grow, all while reconnecting.

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  6. Your trip sounds amazing Jess, what a beautiful idea. Bittersweet, but it will be more on the sweet side than bitter. Happy Honeymoon to you

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  7. That sounds fabulous! I'm so glad you have something to look forward to, some time when you can celebrate your relationship, your survival, and really treat yourselves, in a totally different environment. I'm a firm believer in doing that ... whenever we can.

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  8. The sounds divine. I hope you enjoy every single second of it, basking in one another.

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  9. Your trip sounds fabulous!! I have been on the Oregon Coast and it's gorgeous; I have always wanted to do Carmel/Big Sur. Do check, though -- I hate to put a damper on things, but I've heard there was a landslide that has closed part of the Pacific Coast Highway in that area. You might find yourself making some detours you hadn't anticipated...! :(

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  10. That sounds wicked awesomesauce! I hope you and Bryce have a fantabulous time - can't wait to hear about your adventures in honeymooning! :D

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  11. I have always wanted to do the CA Coast. Napa is so much fun- make sure that you guys get a driver or stay at a vineyard so that you can do lots of tasting! Love that you guys are going all out for this trip- you guys deserve it!

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  12. Your trip sounds amazing! Cannot wait to hear more about it upon your return. Hope you both have a good time and find it restful and rejuvenating. Echo the thoughts on reconnecting as a couple. Safe travels!

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  13. Here's to you two having a fantastic trip! Happy Honeymoon!

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  14. What a great trip you have planned! It's a beautiful part of the country, with fantastic views, stunning scenery, and a little sense of danger (Highway 1) mixed in. Kind of like life...Enjoy!

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  15. Oooh, that sounds like so much fun! I hope it is truly a wonderful trip. Happy honeymoon to the two of you!

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  16. I am very excited to hear about your honeymoon trip! Stay off sliding-toward-the-sea highways, mmmmKay?

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